I’ve come to the conclusion that I have to really start learning to love myself and all of me at that.
At the moment I tend to forget all about me and focus on the other person. I am very good at caring and loving others but when it comes to myself, not so much. The reason why I don’t love myself is probably the same as a lot of people’s; I am too hard on myself.
But that needs to change, I continue to let people get the better of me and why is that? Because I don’t love myself enough. And I should, for I am perfect. It’s hard for me to say this, but it’s starting to come. Whenever I look at myself in the mirror, I find myself saying “You’re not so bad. You’re actually quite handsome.” These words might still be a long way off from loving myself unconditionally but I am getting there.
After a particular event that happened earlier this month, I’ve decided to completely focus on myself from now on before I even attempt to give another person my undivided attention. That probably sounds very selfish but it’s necessary. Every day I find out more and more about what I am supposed to be doing on this earthly plane and I am looking forward more and more to succeeding in achieving that goal.
These are very exciting times that we are in right now, and even though not everyone admits to it, they can all feel something in the air. This is the time to make the change, and that change must begin within ourselves. Now the hardest part for me, accepting me for the beautiful person I am, inside and out.
To end this post, I’d like to share some wise words.
“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”
Denis2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988)